Romantic relationships evolve at life’s different stages. Brad Coates is a divorce lawyer and the author of Divorce with Decency, now in its fifth edition. Brad and Dr. Diana discussed the Millennials (born 1980-1995) and how many are embracing the “new monogamy.” A growing number of couples are reconsidering the terms of their commitment – sometimes it’s referred to as negotiated monogamy. “Monogamish” is the term coined by Dan Savage, a popular sex columnist. When I work with couples considering opening their marriage, I get both partners to come clean about what they feel emotionally capable of handling. Brad talks about Millennials “hooking up”… allowing for physical pleasure while avoiding emotional risks. We also discussed pornography. When the man views porn in secret (95% of the time it is the man), it is often linked to relationship dissatisfaction. Acceptance of porn by both partners may help their relationship in terms of their expectations and their communication. The “paradox of choice” prevails for many – having too many choices – including in the online dating world. Moving on to Boomers (born 1946-1964), Brad spoke about the frequency of “gray divorces.” The 50 plus group has seen their rate of divorce surge 50% in the past 20 years. Brad will return September 18th for a Part 2. Tune in!
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