When parents in Hawaii get a divorce, they may need to determine a custody schedule. They might want their parenting plan to include a number of additional details as well. Ideally, they will be able to coparent amicably after the divorce, but this does not always happen. When this is the case, it can be helpful to deal with a number of common issues up front.

First, parents may need to decide that either they will have similar rules at each home about such issues as homework, screen time and bed time or that they will each have their own rules. Another common issue is whether parents will have first right of refusal for child care if the other parent has an emergency or has to go out of town.

Parents might fight about things like clothes the children leave at the other parent’s house and might need to specify where the child’s belongings should go or if that should be up to the child. Scheduling for both holidays and extracurricular activities are another frequent area of conflict. Parents should try to be flexible if the other parent’s family has an event, such as a wedding or funeral, during their parenting time. Other topics may include when the child can meet a new partner and what to do when the child is ill.

Even parents who are going through an amicable divorce should keep in mind that their relationship could change over the years. While trying to micromanage an otherwise healthy coparenting relationship through the parenting plan may not be the best solution, they may want to consider a framework for resolving any future conflict. For example, they might agree that they will go to a mediator. Attorneys may be able to help parents prepare a parenting plan that works for them and their children.