When you recognize that you are disagreeing with your spouse more than you are enjoying happy and content moments, it may be time to reevaluate your relationship and what changes have caused you to experience increased discord. Depending on the nature of your relationship and the conditions that are contributing to the contention, you may have the chance to discuss your concerns with your spouse in Hawaii before resorting to divorce. 

If you are in a relationship where abuse is occurring and your life is inevitably in danger, having a face-to-face conversation about your concerns is most likely not something you should pursue. In some cases, it is better for you to make strategic and secret arrangements with people that you trust to leave your relationship without involving your spouse. It may even require you to contact the local authorities for added protection as you make a move. 

However, if your relationship is one where you feel comfortable confronting your spouse, The New York Times suggests asking each other if you still love each other. Are there reasons that each of you dislikes the other and are finding it difficult to have a mutually beneficial relationship? If divorce is looking to be the best solution, ask yourself how the change will affect you financially. Try talking with your spouse about amicably splitting assets so both of you can move forward with your life. You may also consider making a list of the pros and cons of ending your relationship. 

The information in this article is intended for educational purposes only and should not be taken as legal advice.