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P. Gregory Frey

P. Gregory Frey

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Practice Areas

  • Divorce with Decency
  • Divorce & Separation
  • Alimony & Property Division
  • Spousal Abuse
  • Custody
  • Child Support Modification & Enforcement
  • Paternity
  • Pre-Marital Agreements
  • Mediation


P. Gregory Frey, JD4386, known to all simply as "Greg," is a third generation attorney, following in the footsteps of his paternal grandfather (USC Law) and father (Stanford Law). He quite literally grew-up, together with his twin brother, under his Father's desk -- the very desk he proudly sits at today, decades later. Greg defines himself as a "old school attorney," and he's proud of that reality. His father ----- a rather famed "3-dot" attorney member of the Hawaii State Bar way "back-in-the-day" ----- instilled in him day-after-day that good attorneys, great attorneys do more than simply represent their clients, they "go to the mat" for each of them, and along the way, volunteer often to help those in need and also try to do good things in the community, for the community. Greg took the advice to heart, and as a result, his personal life clearly demonstrates that he's got an amazing philanthropic spirit & energy & devotion which rivals most. In a few words, Greg has "given back" for decades, for his entire career. Here's but a few of the things he's done which are important to him, and for which he has ALWAYS carried a sincere passion & special devotion:

** Service on the Hawaii State Bar Association Board for about 10 years, culminating as Bar President in 2020 (arguably the most prestigious philanthropic honor a lawyer can achieve in his/her career).

** Service on literally dozens (if not hundreds) of Committees in Family Court of the First Circuit (Oahu) spanning over 30 years, to include appointment by the Chief Justice of the Hawaii Supreme Court to Special Master positions in divorce & paternity cases, and extensive volunteer work with the Access to Justice program in Family Court, Volunteer Legal Services of Hawaii ("VLSH") and Mediation Center of the Pacific ("MCP").

** Service on numerous local school boards, to include Saint Louis School Trustees for about 12 years and Sacred Hearts Academy for some 6 years.

** Service on numerous Alumni Association boards, to include St. Louis Alumni Assoc. for 17 years (to include 10 consecutive years as President) and Santa Clara University Alumni for about 3 years (travelling from HI to CA for each meeting in the days before Zoom).

** Service on the Waikiki Yacht Club ("WYC") Board of Directors for about 9 years, culminating as Commodore in 1997 ("fun fact" - Greg was the first son of a former commodore to also be elected commodore in the famed Club's almost 80 year existence).

** Service on the ABRACADABRA 2000 National Board for years, the syndicate responsible for getting the first boat out of HAWAII to enter the famed AMERICA's CUP.

** Member & Partner & Managing Attorney of Coates & Frey, AAL LLLC for 22 years (from 1996-2018) & now, Member & Partner & Senior Attorney of Coates Frey & Hackett, AAL LLLC).

** Founder & Bd. President of SeMPer FREY, Inc., dba The Wishes GRANTed Foundation, a 501(c)(3) tax-exempt Public Charity established to honor his (twin) brother, LtCol. Grant V. Frey, USMC (Ret.) who was tragically lost to COVID-19 in 2020.

** Co-owner of The P.I.A.E Group, LLC dba The Pacific Ink & Art Expo aka Hawaii Tattoo Expo.

All this volunteer service & hard work to try to help & to guide others has led Greg to enjoy & to earn & to achieve lots of accolades, honors & recognition, to include these:

**  Two-time recipient of VLSH's Kahiau Award.

** Inducted to SLS's Gallery of Distinguished Achievers ("GODA'), 2018.

** Lifetime appointment as SLS' Trustee Emeritus.

**  Inductee to Santa Clara Rugby Hall of Fame, 2018.

**  WYC Member of the Year, 1997.

If asked, Greg will tell you & anyone who will listen that each of these "life experiences" & related honors / recognition has allowed him to create and maintain a very special understanding of the unique needs of local folks, and how to best meet these needs. Greg's a true "people person" who is devoted to "talk story" with his clients until solutions are found, and until work gets done to the total satisfaction (hopefully!?!) of each person Greg works for and works with. His "jump right in" approach to his work as a Family Law attorney comes from all the unique & hands-on stuff he has done for decades. As said, Greg sees himself as a "local boy who helps local folks." Please allow Greg to help YOU when & if needed.   


  • Willamette University College of Law, Salem, Oregon
    • Juris Doctor - 1986
    • Honors: Moot Court Board, Treasurer, 1986
    • Honors: President's Honor Roll, 1986
    • Honors: Phi Alpha Delta
  • Santa Clara University, Santa Clara, California
    • B.A., Bachelor of Arts - 1983
    • Honors: Member, Phi Alpha Theta
    • Major: History
  • Saint Louis High School, Honolulu
    • Graduate
    • Honors: Honors
  • Honolulu University
    • M.A.
    • Major: Psychology

Bar Admissions

  • Hawaii, 1987
  • U.S. Court of Appeals 9th Circuit, 1989
  • U.S. District Court District of Hawaii, 1987


  • Since 2010, he has been selected as one of Hawaii Super Lawyers for Family Law

Pro-Bono Activities

  • Member, Saint Louis Alumni Association Board of Directors, 2002 to Present
  • President, Saint Louis Alumni Association Board of Directors, 2009 to 2019
  • Member, Sacred Hearts Academy Board of Directors
  • Member, Santa Clara University Alumni Board of Directors, 2017 to 2019
  • First Circuit Family Court Volunteer Settlement Master Program
  • Member of Multiple Family Court Committees

Past Positions

  • Law Office of Bradley A. Coates

Ancillary Businesses

  • Co-Owner of The P.I.A.E. Group, LLC (dba Pacific Ink & Art Expo)
  • Founder & Board President of SeMPer FREY, Inc.

Fraternities or Sororities

  • Sigma Phi Epsilon

Professional Associations

  • Waikiki Yacht Club, Former Director, Officer, Commodore (1997), & Judge Advocate
  • American Bar Association, Member (Various Years)
  • Hawaii State Bar Association, Member, 1987 to Present
  • Association of Trial Lawyers of America, Member (Various Years)
  • Neighborhood Legal Services, ALC, Founding Officer, Director (Various Years)
  • American Judicature Society, Member (Various Years)
  • Hawaii State Bar Association, Vice President (2018), President-elect (2019), & President (2020)
  • Family Law Section, Hawaii State Bar Association, Chairperson (2002) & Board Member
  • Hawaii State Bar Association, Oahu, Director, 2004 to 2010
  • Hawaii State Bar Association, Family Law Section, Vice-Chairperson in 2001
  • Life Member of the National Conference of Bar Presidents

Current Employment Positions

  • Senior Attorney
  • Partner