'Ohana Is Everything Hawaii's Original Family Law Firm

Serving Clients on Oahu & All Neighboring Islands

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Honolulu Divorce Attorneys

Providing Exceptional Family Law Service to Hawaii's Communities for Over Three Decades

Coates Frey & Hackett, AAL LLLC is Hawaii’s largest and arguably one of the best known divorce and family law firms. Our Honolulu divorce lawyers have dedicatedly handled over 30,000 cases across the Hawaiian Islands in all subcategories of family law, including adoption, child custody and child support, divorce, prenuptial agreements, restraining orders, and more.

Our team's size and years of experience set us apart from other family law practices on Oahu and throughout our Island State and allows us to approach your case with a depth of knowledge and level of care that is unmatched.

Our practice is infused with our passion for community and the aloha spirit. Our Honolulu divorce attorneys are welcoming, courteous, and thoughtful. There's something very uplifting and motivating about knowing your legal meetings will often start with a warm "aloha!" and a genuine smile.

Our firm's approach emphasizes civil-minded settlements that are handled amicably and free from messy courtroom conflicts. Our Honolulu divorce attorney's goal is to provide you with maximum benefits at minimum costs.

Our Client-Focused Approach

We approach our cases in an akamai and hands-on fashion. We pride ourselves on being responsive and approachable to all our clients. Everyone in the office, from our attorneys to our seasoned support staff, is available to serve you and address whatever needs, concerns, or questions you have.

  • Super Lawyers
  • Honolulu Magazine: Best Lawyers
  • Best Of Hawaii

Representation You Can Count On 

Our Diverse Team Is Ready to Help Your Family
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  • Shannon  Kim Hackett Photo
  • Paul W. Soenksen Photo
  • Bradley A. Coates (Retired) Photo
  • Amberlynn  Alualu Photo
  • Zoe  Hernandez Photo
  • Justin Y.D Tsai Photo
  • Robert S. Young Photo
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    P. Gregory Frey

    Senior Attorney

    P. Gregory Frey is our senior attorney and one of the partners of our firm. Beyond the many roles he fills and contributions ...
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    Shannon Kim Hackett

    Managing Attorney

    Shannon Kim Hackett’s career has been recognized as exceptional from the start. A Bill & Melinda Gates Scholar, Shannon ...
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    Paul W. Soenksen

    Senior Counsel

    Paul W. Soenksen, Senior Counsel of Coates Frey & Hackett, AAL LLLC, is an accomplished attorney and experienced speaker. ...
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    Bradley A. Coates (Retired)

    Founder, Author of "Divorce With Decency"

    RETIRED, NO LONGER ACTIVELY PRACTICING LAW. Bradley A. Coates was our firm's founder and the author of Hawaii's award winning ...
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    Amberlynn Alualu

    Associate Attorney

    Amberlynn O. Alualu is an invaluable addition to our firm and is a member of our firm’s Paternity Practice Group & Domestic ...
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    Zoe Hernandez

    Associate Attorney

    Zoe M. Hernandez is an invaluable addition to our firm and is head of our firm’s Paternity Practice Group. At Coates Frey & ...
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    Justin Y.D Tsai

    Associate Attorney

    Justin Y.D. Tsai is a powerful addition to our legal team. At Coates Frey & Hackett, AAL LLLC, he concentrates on family law ...
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    Robert S. Young

    Associate Attorney

    Robert S.N. Young has exceled as an established legal professional in Honolulu for decades. At Coates Frey & Hackett, AAL ...

We Treat Our Clients Like Family

At Coates Frey & Hackett, AAL LLLC, your ‘ohana becomes our ‘ohana. Our Honolulu divorce lawyers excitedly welcome our clients to our relaxed offices and offer a personalized approach to your case. We offer warmth and encouragement in our consults, listen to your concerns, and fight for your goals.


    “Tom, Jenn, and Zoe helped make this process so easy. Although the other lawyer dragged things out, Tom, Jenn, and Zoe understood me and were responsive to my needs and the complexity of the other ...”

    - M.C.
  • Very professional.

    “Very professional courteous, and respectful. Thank you.”

    - T.R.
  • Bob was always on the same page as me and he always had my best interest at heart.

    “Bob was always on the same page as me and he always had my best interest at heart.”

    - J.B.
  • I appreciate her ability to manage compassion and justice.

    “I appreciate her ability to manage compassion and justice.”

    - S.S.
  • Mr. Bob Young has been attentive and invested in my case since it has begun.

    “His efforts were evidenced by a speedy decision in the first stage of our case, he and his team are dedicated, professionals and will help in anyway that they can, highly recommended...military friend ...”

    - D.F.

Our Family Promise

Why Choose Our Team
  • Family Minded, Solutions Focused

    We are here to help you come to an amicable resolution as efficiently as possible. Our collaborative approach provides results in a timely manner.

  • Helping Clients On All Islands

    Each of our attorneys devotes a significant amount of time on different Hawaiian islands. Whether you're on the Big Island or Kauai, you have us on your side.

  • Highly Experienced Team in Family Law

    From our newest paralegal to our most experienced attorneys, you'll have someone who understands the ins and outs of family law in every circuit and every family law courtroom in our Island State.

  • Wrote the Book About Divorce in Hawaii

    Our team holds the principles of Divorce With Decency close. This book is referenced by legal professionals in our Island State.

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We "Wrote the Book" on Divorce in Hawaii

Check Out Attorney Bradley Coates's Award-Winning Book: "Divorce with Decency"

The Philosophy Behind Our Practice

Our philosophy is founded upon Hawaii's famed principles and spirit of "aloha." It's our goal to provide cost- and time-effective legal assistance in that way. We welcome our clients as our family. You are one of us. We treat you with the respect and kindness you deserve and fight for results and settlements that best serve you.

Serving Honolulu, Oahu, and the Neighbor Islands

Our firm is based in Honolulu but is available to clients on all Hawaiian Islands. Each of our attorneys is familiar with one or more of the Hawaiian Islands and the unique people, judges, and courts they are home to. We use this knowledge and experience to approach your case with a familiarity and comfort that allows us to excel for your benefit and meet your goals.