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The emotional fallout from divorce

| May 26, 2020 | Blog, Divorce

Those who are going through the divorce process in Hawaii and elsewhere may feel a variety of emotions such as grief, anxiety and fear. Individuals may experience negative emotions even if they were the ones who decided to end their marriages. Addiction, emotional or physical abuse and an inability to commit to a relationship are all common reasons why marriages don’t survive. Regardless of why a marriage comes to an end, an individual will likely need to prepare for a significant change to his or her lifestyle.

A person who is single for the first time in years or decades may feel lonely or isolated from the outside world. They may be anxious about how they will pay bills or otherwise provide for themselves financially without a spouse to help with living expenses. Simply going through the process of officially ending a marriage can increase a person’s stress level.

This may be especially true for those who have children and are unsure how it may impact their relationship with a son or daughter. Furthermore, parents may be concerned about how a divorce could impact their children from an emotional standpoint. Parents who notice behavioral or other changes in their children are encouraged to talk to them about those changes calmly and with an open mind.

Ideally, individuals who are going through a divorce will not let their emotions impact their decision making during settlement talks. An attorney may be able to help provide insight into how a person can manage his or her emotions during a divorce proceeding. Those who wish to avoid litigation may find that mediation may help them negotiate favorable settlements. Mediation involves a neutral party who will let an individual speak freely and articulate what he or she needs from a settlement.