Family Helping Family
Guiding You Through Every Step of the Process

Five Reasons for Divorce in Hawaii

On Behalf of | Jan 3, 2023 | Divorce

Divorce is a mentally draining process, and it can be challenging to navigate the landscape when many emotions are involved. You may be asking yourself if you are making the right decision and if anyone else is going through the same experience. Knowing that you are not the first to make this decision can often help ease your mind and let you know that you are not alone.

In this blog, we want to offer a bit of comfort to let you know that many others have made the same decision as you by discussing the top five reasons for divorce:

  • Financial Incompatibility
  • Infidelity
  • Addiction
  • Lack of Intimacy and Communication
  • Abuse

We will also explain how mediation is a helpful alternative dispute resolution during divorce proceedings. We hope that you will gain confidence in your decision to move forward with the process!

What Are The Most Common Reasons for Divorce?

Financial Incompatibility

Money issues such as debt and overspending can be significant sources of stress in a marriage and might be grounds for seeking a divorce. If both parties cannot agree on how to handle their finances together, they may decide to part ways. Financial incompatibility can prevent spouses from seeing eye-to-eye on their financial goals, saving and spending habits, and debt management. It is no secret that life can be expensive, and if money is continuously spent irresponsibly, it can cause detrimental damage to a marriage.


Infidelity is one of the primary reasons people decide to get divorced. The betrayal of one partner cheating on another can cause many issues that are often unable to be resolved. Even if the unfaithful partner decides to change and attempt to save their relationship, the trust may not be able to be restored. It will eventually cause the marriage to dissolve.


Addiction is a significant problem in many relationships and can come in many forms, such as:

  • Drugs
  • Alcohol
  • Gambling
  • Pornography

Addiction can lead to financial strain, infidelity, and a lack of communication, directly contributing to relationship breakdowns. Both parties need to seek help if one partner is struggling with addiction before it causes irreparable damage.

Lack of Intimacy and Communication

Poor communication and intimacy issues can cause problems in any relationship, but they become particularly damaging when neglected over time. If two people cannot find ways to communicate effectively, it’s likely that resentment will build up until they no longer feel connected or valued by their partner. Additionally, lack of intimacy can cause the marital bond to weaken, furthering the disconnect with the relationship. If these feelings are left unattended, either partner may search elsewhere to help them feel valued, which can cause the couple to part ways.


Suppose either party believes they are subject to abuse or neglect in their marriage. In that case, it might be best for them to pursue a divorce rather than remain in an unhealthy relationship. Although abuse is not always physical, emotional abuse can be just as damaging. Often, the abuse can trickle down to the children and be detrimental to their future development and outlook on relationships.

How Can Mediation Help During My Divorce Proceedings?

Mediation provides couples with a way out of their turmoil by avoiding lengthy court battles and costly litigation fees. During mediation sessions, couples can come together with a neutral third party who helps them reach agreements on important matters such as:

While discussing divorce agreements, mediation also provides couples emotional support throughout the process and stresses the importance of exploring all available options before taking any drastic steps.

Mediation keeps high-tension topics amicable and helps the divorce process remain affordable by avoiding lengthy legal litigations. An experienced family law attorney will have the resources to help you find a mediator that best fits your needs throughout your divorce.

If you are seeking representation for your divorce or are looking for an experienced mediator, our attorneys at Coates Frey & Hackett, AAL LLLC are eager to help. Contact us online or call us to discuss how we can help you throughout this challenging process. 808-524-4854